LEARNING TO SMELL…MY AZALEAS.
During my time working in big buildings in manhattan, or while in the midst of running an errand, I have found that it is difficult to stop and smell, well…life. I often recall myself speeding down the street, hopping in and out of taxi’s, trying to keep my mouth pursed in the subway, and thinking “I wish I could just be at home walking my dog in the park,” especially on a beautiful day. Taking my dog outside in the tranquility of the early afternoon makes not only him feel loved but makes me feel as though I am making time to love myself.
Those calm, peaceful, slightly breezy, and warm days are a coveted part of the spring season that only those privileged and bold enough to play “hooky” from the everyday mundane can experience. After all, my azalea bush only blooms once a year in the spring and then does not return for a full year, sometimes two. My family and I put so much time and love into caring for our greenery, that when they sing in bloom, there is an indescribable fulfillment. So you can imagine my excitement when this year, those soft green buds bloomed into bright fuchsia pink rhododendron.
The warm breeze ushers me, and my dog Pitts, outside. The flowers blossom and smile and hermit neighbors are waving hello with their four-legged friends walking happily to the park. Suddenly, all of my tension melts away and I recall that pivotal day, two years ago, when I decided that working from home was the best decision I could make toward living my best life now.
There is an old chinese proverb that says:
“Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are.”
Deciding to work from home was not simple, especially with family distractions, but my health has benefited tremendously. I find that I am more mindful and relaxed when strolling through and viewing the grand scene of nature. And when I return to my home office to work, I occasionally peer out my window, absorb the breeze and exhale.
I love reading my friend Jasmin’s balance blog. She is a life therapist and specializes in psychotherapy, coaching, meditation, and mindfulness. Her blog is full of great quotes and articles that you can directly connect to, ponder, and share. My favorite article speaks about self love and filling your own love tank. In the article, she speaks about a few practices of self-love that are helpful when trying to fill our love tanks. Here are my favorites:
- Remind ourselves of all the wonderful things that we are.
- Be grateful for all the little (and big) things in our lives.
- Take action toward improving elements in our lives that negatively affect us.
When making the valiant step toward filling your own love tank in the pursuit of living your best life now, I hope you will take time to “smell” whatever it is that truly makes you relaxed, passionate, and happy.