Empaths Night Out; Six Ways to Guard Yourself from an Emotionally Explosive Evening
Partaking in the exciting nightlife of your city can be a carefree and liberating experience. For empaths, this experience can become overwhelming very quickly if we are not grounded within ourselves before, during, and after our fun-filled—and sometimes wild—outings. For those just learning about who empaths are and what we can do, here is a brief overview from professional empath and intuitive,Elise Lebeau:
“Empaths are highly sensitive people who can absorb up the emotions of other people, usually involuntarily. We feel what they feel.Being an empath means that you feel other people’s emotions as your own. For example, if someone around you is very angry you might start to feel angry yourself, even though there is no direct reason for you to feel this way.”
Now that you have an idea of the—sometimes inner—torture that empaths go through, here are a six ways to guard yourself from an emotionally explosive evening and stay emotionally grounded:
1. Find Authentic People to Connect with: Let’s be real, there are going to be numerous drunk and uninhibited partygoers and it can be tough to weed through the fog of top shelf intoxication to find genuine connections that will last beyond the shot glass. Let your conversations be your guide. If gossip and slander are the order for the evening, separate yourself, meet a new group of authentic people, and introduce them to one another creating a “dope” and positive party crowd.
2. When You Feel “No,” Say “No.” Was it that the creepy french guy looked like “Where’s Waldo?” or was it his gyrating he-man motions that turned you off? Perhaps it was his multiple attempts to “vampire” your neck after accepting his request for a dance. Either way, if you feel uncomfortable and are two minutes from bursting into tears, an assertive “no” should do the trick. If he persists, let your feminine—and confident—kundalini rise and groin his ass. Trust me, you won’t feel bad.
3. Laugh Often: The idea behind scoping out the party scene is to have unabashed fun and meet new people that will join in on the excitement. There’s no point in hanging out if you are not going to laugh often and laugh hard. The key to laughing often is to let go of any looming priorities, responsibilities, and heavy thoughts, and exist within the thrill of the present moment.
4. Don’t Linger in Negativity: While entering the tiny bathroom of a packed NYC lounge, I noticed four women—two in their 20’s and two in their 40’s—blocking the stall entryways. They were conversing about divorce, the number of single young men in the place, how they had hoped they would meet more mature gentleman, and overall what a shitty turn-out the event was for them because the caliber of men sucked. As I washed my hands in the basin, a woman in her 50’s turned to me and whispered, “They don’t know how to have fun.” “Damn straight!” I thought. It can be tough to find good people to connect with when you’re ridin’ solo to an event. Stewing in complaints and bad energy is only going to frustrate you. Leave the tawdry emotions in the shitter where they belong.
5. Have An Exit Plan: Personally, I hate traveling home late and alone. So before I even step out the door, I always develop my exit plan. What time do I plan to leave? How will I get home? What are my alternative transportation options in case one fails? It’s always best to develop your exit plan before heading out so that you won’t have to cope with fear and anxiety on top of many other uncomfortable and mixed bag emotions that will be flooding you throughout the evening.
6. Know Your Limit: At a certain point in the alcohol consumption process, the brain is pulled into the mix. The limbic system—-a set of six inner structures tucked under the cerebrum, is believed to be the emotional center of the brain. It is charged with controlling emotions, behavior, and forming long-term memories. The limbic system typically would keep our emotions in check but the more we drink, the more moody and exaggerated our emotions become amplifying our feelings, misunderstanding intentions, and simply regretting poor statement choices. If you know your limit and stick to it, you will be more prone to controlling your emotions and shielding yourself from becoming the sentiment shared by another.
Now that you are equipped with these six tips to help you guard yourself against an emotionally explosive night, you can confidently go forth and know that you will not be a victim of an all night crying session, waking up emotionally confused, or suffering the morning after enlightenment face-palm. Cheers Fellow Empaths!